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Brenda & E.J.
Hagar has known each other for over 37 years. She had a high school crush on
him and he wasn't interested.Two months after
graduation, Brenda found out that E.J had broken up with his girlfriend so she
seized the opportunity to reconnect by writing him a letter (he was a member of
the USAF and stationed in Japan). That was the original You’ve Got Mail. He came home from Japan in July 1979 and they
were married on October 27, 1979. No formal courtship– just a romance
through the mail. Married for 34 years, Brenda and E.J shares a
few words of wisdom.
what do you love about E.J? He is patient, kind, and faithful.
do you keep the romance going? It is a priority for both of us. It just doesn't belong to
one or the other. We have date nights and cuddle times. He brings
me flowers - I love that. When we put it on the back burner and ignore
our needs for romance we can really tell the difference.
is your favorite part of marriage? Having a partner. Having someone there through the fun, the bad, and the
expected. I know I won't ever be in this alone.
is the most important aspect in a marriage to make it successful? Trust.
often throws many curveballs, and those that make it through those tough times
stay together. How have you dealt with stressful times
that arise?Our Faith!!! Trust in God. Life sometimes will tear you down
so low you don't think that you will ever recover. The faith that we have
brings us UP.
isn't always a cakewalk. What advice can you offer newly engaged couples when disagreements occur?Be considerate. Even when you know you are right. Let each
other have their opinion and work through it. Sometimes you have to agree
ªBrenda, what is the most important thing for a
wife to know? Respect your
husband. When we have had the most problems it has been because of a lack
of respect and admiration. Husbands don't always make it where you want
to do that but it is necessary.
ªE.J, what is the
best advice you can give to other husbands? Love your wife!! In the ways that she needs to be
loved, not the way that you want to or is the easiest.
ªWhat did you see in E.J that made
you want to marry him? He seemed like a caring,
dedicated, and loving person.
ªWhat were your goals for your
marriage when you were engaged? *NEVER discuss
D-I-V-O-R-C-E!!! *Work through the problems. * Have children and
ensure that we gave them a God centered life. *Be there for each other -
through it all.
couples you look up to? What do you respect
about their marriages? David
and Sandy. He was our first Pastor after we were married. They just
celebrated their 40th wedding anniversary. They have not always had it
easy and they have showed us how to raise children, hold down a job and most of
all, and love the Lord no matter the circumstances.
ªWhat do you see
as the strengths of your marriage? We are devoted to one another!!
of wisdom for the newly engaged couples that will be reading your story? Don't listen to what "Hollywood" has to say
about marriage. Make your vows to the Lord and each other - NO ONE
ELSE. You are not accountable to anyone else except your spouse and
God. Be committed. Don't make divorce an option. Love one
another like you want to be loved. Be consistent.
ANTIPASTO: (“before the meal”) traditional first course of
a formal Italian meal. Unlike hors d’oeuvres, antipasto is served at the table
and traditionally consists of cured meats, marinated vegetables and cheeses.
BUFFET: Casual way to serve a large group of guests; a
variety of dishes displayed on tables that guests can pick and choose from.
Typically doesn’t work for venues with numerous small rooms. FAMILY STYLE: Platters of food are placed at each table.
Wedding guests help themselves and pass the food around to one another. FRENCH SERVICE: This individualized and highly skilled type
of food service is not very common in the U.S. Rather than being plated in the
kitchen, white-gloved waiters prepare food table side from a single large dish
or platter held by another waiter. Each guest is served individually. HORS D’ OEUVRES: (“outside the work” in French). Appetizer
typically served before a meal; food that precedes the mai…
SheQueita and Shedrack,
I wish you two nothing but blessings and happiness for the rest of your lives! Thank you for allowing Kiss and Tell Weddings to plan, coordinate, and execute one of the best days of your lives. Stay kind, keep God first, and love each other always!!!