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To Have & To Hold....

I will be yours in times of plenty and in times of want, in times of sickness and in times of health, in times of joy and in times of sorrow, in times of failure and in times of triumph.
So a couple of weeks ago I coordinated a vow renewal ceremony for a couple that has been married for 25 years. As I watched them recite non traditional vows from the heart, I realized that couples should review and renew their vows after a while. Listening to them express their love for one another 25 years later you could tell that they were speaking from the heart and from past experience. They had been through good times, bad times, hard times, fun times, deaths, births, financial ups and financial downs. This was not like the first time when you get married.
You repeat the vows:
"I, [name], take you [name], to be my [husband/wife], to have and to hold from this day forward; for better or for worse; for richer, for poorer; in sickness and in health; to love and to cherish from this day forward until death do us part."
Majority of the time you have not experienced worse, poorer, or sickness. You repeat those words with the hopes of never experiencing the bad part. But we know that the bad comes with the good. We love our spouse. We will endure with them. We will support them. Sometimes, we will even suffer with them. When they hurt, you hurt.

So think back 10, 15, 20, 30 years ago when you stood at that altar repeating those vows...now imagine saying them again on Saturday, December 26, 2015. What would you say? Would you add in some words? Would you thank your spouse for being there for you? Would you thank them for being an awesome dad/mom? Would those vows mean a little bit more now since time has gone by?
My husband and I will celebrate 12 years in January. We have been through the better and worse. The poorer (still working on the 'richer' LOL). We have been through the sickness. I honestly do cherish him more than I did 12 years ago. He has lived up to those vows and he has shown me what they look like. 

I truly believe that love is a verb! 

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